Therapy for Perfectionism & “Not Good Enough”
What We Offer
Therapy for High Achievers Who Are Tired of Never Feeling Enough or Feeling like an Imposter
Perfectionism is often misunderstood as ambition. But therapy for perfectionism isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about understanding the cost of tying your worth to performance.
You might notice:
Chronic self-criticism
Overthinking every decision
Fear of making mistakes
Avoiding risks unless you’re sure you’ll succeed
Difficulty celebrating wins
Procrastination fueled by fear of not doing it perfectly
Feeling like an imposter despite evidence of success
Even when you accomplish something, relief is short-lived. The bar just moves higher. That’s not motivation. That’s a nervous system that never feels safe enough to rest.
On paper, you’re doing well.
You’re responsible. Driven. Capable.
People describe you as successful, hard working, a leader, reliable, impressive.
And yet — inside — there’s a voice that says:
You should be doing more.
You should be better than this.
You’re behind.
You’re not enough.
At The Holistic Living Co., we provide perfectionism therapy in North Carolina for adults who are exhausted by the pressure to constantly prove themselves.The “Not Good Enough” Wound
Many adults seeking therapy for feeling not good enough trace it back to early experiences:
Growing up with high expectations
Being praised only for achievement
Navigating racism, classism, migration, or sexism
Feeling pressure to be the “good,” “strong,” or “grateful” one
Learning that mistakes led to criticism, shame, or withdrawal
Perfectionism often begins as protection.
If I do everything right, I’ll be safe.
If I don’t disappoint anyone, I’ll belong.
If I achieve enough, no one can question my worth or value.
Over time, that survival strategy turns into chronic anxiety, burnout, and disconnection.
What We Do in Therapy
You were never meant to earn your humanity. Therapy can help you move from constant self-surveillance into steadier self-trust, where achievement becomes an expression of who you are, not a requirement for belonging.
In therapy for perfectionism and not feeling good enough, we don’t shame your drive.
We get curious about it.
Our work may include:
Understanding where your standards came from
Separating self-worth from productivity
Calming the overactive nervous system
Addressing shame, and internalized and cultural pressures
Learning to tolerate mistakes without spiraling
Rebuilding a more compassionate internal voice
Exploring how systems, family dynamics, and culture shaped your identity
We slow things down enough to notice what’s underneath the striving.
Often beneath perfectionism is fear.
And beneath fear is a deep desire to feel worthy without performing.
Perfectionism therapy in North Carolina can help you move from constant self-surveillance into steadier self-trust, where achievement becomes an expression of who you are, not a requirement for belonging.